Sending your child with attachment disorder can be a very good choice. Despite certain threats and hazards your children may incur in school, it is still important that they interact with the real world. However, there should be important considerations a teacher should follow in accommodating children diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder. Educator Carey McGinn listed in her open letter to educators various therapeutic accommodation strategies for teachers. Here are some of them:
Use Love and Logic Technique
Love and Logic philosophy is used in place of behavior management systems which put the teachers back in control of their classroom in the kindest way possible. According to Fay & Fay, the techniques are devoted to helping teachers in developing responsible students. Techniques include recognizing who is in real control and designing appropriate consequences for misbehaviors.
Avoid the use of punishment
According to Nelson (2002), punishment produces retaliation and resentment. So instead of blaming children with reactive attachment disorder for not doing their homework, make them understand that they are so lucky for having a teacher that will give them a second chance to accomplish their task. Also, you can use restitution. If a child damages a school item, the child should repair the damage. Through this, you are making things right with the teachers and the peers.
Allow children to experience natural consequences of poor choices
If the children with RAD score poor on their test, allow them to feel bad about it. However, do not blame them for getting a poor score for not studying beforehand. Avoid sarcasm and comments like “I hope you learned your lessons”. Instead, tell them “It’s fine. I am sure you are going to get a high score on our test this Friday.”
Avoid arguing with the child
Most of the times, children with RAD will insist their stance. For example, the child is persistent of not going to art class. As a teacher, you should encourage the child to attend the art class. But if the child rejects the idea, let it be.
Establish eye contact
Children with RAD dislike eye contact. As a teacher, you have to reach out to them. Make sure that you look at them at their eyes and ensure that they always look up to you rather than bowing their heads.
Acknowledge them immediately
Children with RAD needs recognition. If they get a high score, acknowledge them in the class. If they made their homework and finished their assignment, congratulate them for doing the good behavior. With this, they will think that their decisions are what’s right and fulfilling.
Those were just a few of the many ways a teacher can accommodate or treat children with reactive attachment disorder. Just remember that educational strategies and techniques should always be applied with empathy and never anger.