when you are most unhappy,
Parents of children with an attachment disorder have a very hard task to accomplish. To bring a child out of this serious illness and guide them into a world of love is a great responsibility. Although it is difficult, in many cases, it is possible with the right help.
There is no quick fix for attachment disorder. It takes a long time for the child to heal. I know this is hard to hear - it was for me. I wanted things better yesterday! It takes strength and perseverance to bring the child to healing. For success you must be willing to work harder on helping your child than you probably will work on anything else in your life. The pay off is the rebirth of your child - nothing can compare to that.
Parents should not work against each other and allow the child to triangulate them. It is essential that both parents be on the same team when guiding their child toward healing.
The type of parenting that often works with these most difficult of children is the type that takes them back to redo those early years of love and bonding that they missed. This time around, their needs will be met. At the same time, they must learn to accept limits as they should have in the beginning of their lives. This time they will learn to accept a loving parents limits.
There are several books and videos you can purchase and study to help you with the parenting part of the healing process. Please realize that therapeutic parenting is an essential part of this process and the parents must become educated and highly motivated to effect positive change.
therapist who specializes in attachment and bonding problems is also a
vital part of the treatment team but parents must be willing to work with
Web Sites and Books
I believe that it is necessary to research all the different approaches used to parent these exceptional children.
Thomas has a lot of info, great books and videos
Hage also has great website
Cline and Jim Fay offer a
Hughes has two good books
Welch's book and video offer parenting ideas.
figured into our son's healing
following are by Nancy Thomas:
as Partners When Treating Attachment Disorder
to Lying and Teaching the Truth
To Your Room" Practice
Principles of working with Traumatized Children
Impact of Abuse and Neglect on the Developing Brain
& Attachment in Maltreated Children
Depression and PTSD in Parents!
The children often suffer from Depression and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Parents often suffer from Depression, Secondary PTSD and the grief that comes with the death of their dream child and family. It is important for you to know the signs of both. Here are some links to help.
and the Child with Attachment Disorder
I found a little brush up on child development helped me better understand the importance of what my son missed.
Attachment as a Context for Development
Adopted Child's Changing View
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